Watch your mouth!

He who guards his mouth and his tongue, Guards his soul from troubles. Proverbs 21:23

I love this verse because we should always think before we say something we could regret later. We all get angry and mad, but after we think about it for awhile we forget what we are mad about. It could save a lot of hurt and anguish if we think before we say.

Is being responsible and practical always the best decision?

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I have always been responsible, practical and always do the right thing.  I made the honor roll all through school, only got put “on the wall” at recess once (we were moving and I forgot to get my agenda signed) and ALWAYS got picked for any extra school activities by teachers.  I keep a budget, I think consciously before buying things.  I try to keep friends and family members feelings in mind before making decisions.  I would be known as the “teacher’s pet” or “goody two shoes” at school or work.  I don’t do this to make myself look better or to brag, its just the way that I was raised.  I hate to disappoint people or have them angry at me.  For me, it is the worst feeling in the world.

I did do something “crazy” as one may call it, beyond the social norm.  I got married at nineteen.  My boyfriend and I had been dating for 3 years, we knew we were going to get married eventually.  Why not at nineteen?  This is one of the only “crazy” and bold decisions I have ever made for myself.  Getting married at nineteen is also one of the greatest decisions I have ever made.

That brings me to the question, is being practical and responsible always the best option?

I am very proud of the fact I did well in school and am a responsible person that always thinks through decisions before making a irrational choice.  Then why is one of the best decisions I have ever made, one did I not think as thoroughly as I normally would.  This question has been on my mind a lot recently.  Sometimes when you are responsible and practical all the time, you forget about living life.  I put too many restrictions on myself because of money, time and caring what people may think.  I forget about what I really want out of life.  The busyness of life, keeps me from living out my dreams and aspirations.  I find that thinking too much about something you want to do, can debilitate you from ever attaining the goal in mind.  You have to take a chance and do it.

The point is, there has to be a balance between responsibility and achieving your dreams.  I plan on being responsible, but carrying out my goals in life without thinking so precisely about the “what ifs.”

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The sound of silence

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The sound of silence is not really silence at all.  Silence helps you think clearly.  It helps you listen to your own thoughts without the interruption of family, friends or any type of media that can sway your decision in a particular way.  Silence is golden.

We figure out what we really want out of life when there is silence.  You can answer life’s biggest questions for yourself when there is silence.  You can have a heart to heart with yourself.

For me, I can always hear God more clearly.  God has a plan for my life and it is much easier for me to listen to His presence when there is silence.  For example, I may be confused about life or worried about a problem.  I don’t have someone’s judgmental comment or opinion in my way.  It’s just Him and I.

I have always enjoyed silence and will always understand the importance of it.  There is busyness and noise all around us, twenty-four seven.  Why don’t we stop and listen to the silence within ourselves?

Plans and Pathways

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The mind of a man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.

Proverbs 16:9

This is a great verse, especially for a planner like me. 🙂 I love to plan, but only God can direct our steps.  What a relief it is that we don’t have to worry about the path to get to a goal!  God can do all the worrying for us.  His path is always the best direction.

Verse of the Moment

Proverbs 12:25

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, but a good word makes it glad.

This verse is so true.  I have struggles with anxiety for a couple years now and it weighs you down and debilitates you.  Your body becomes like jello and you feel like you can’t move.  It’s hard to explain if you have never had an anxiety attack or even felt slightly anxious, but it is on the worst feelings in the world.  Happy thoughts and words around you are definitly the best medicine for anxiety.   If you let anxiety consume you it can take over your life.  We are so blessed to have a God that can get us through these types of things!

Good Reads

I don’t’ know about you but I absolutely love to read.   I have been reading some very wise books lately. I highly recommend Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggegrichs and So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore.  They really take God’s Word and put it into application.

Beth Moore’s, So Long Insecurity really impacts me since I have been an extremely insecure person my whole life.  I am not sure if you struggle with this, but I know most women at least have a couple insecurities.   This verse made an impression on me because it shows how truly special we are to God and that we are designed for a purpose.

O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me.

You know when I sit down or stand up.  You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.You see me when I travel and when I rest at home.
  You know everything I do.  You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord.  You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head.Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand!…..

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
 Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.

You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!

Psalm 139:1-6, 13-17

Another eye opener Beth pointed out is when you are constantly insecure or afraid to try something because you are afraid you will be made fun of or look stupid, you are actually not living up for God’s purpose for you. God has made a purpose for you and if you are thinking about what others think and not what God thinks; you are not living up to what He has made you to be.

Do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what He has promised.

Hebrews 10:35-36

Struggles with Coveting

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“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife or his male servant or his female servant or his ox or his donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbor”

Exodus 20:17

God specifically tells us not to covet.  For goodness sakes, it is one of the ten commandments!

In my recent post about Facebook, I realized that I have had some struggles with wanting things others have.  I thought it was more of an envy issue, but I think it all stems from coveting.  The definition of covet is to yearn or possess something.  To envy is a a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck.  I am never jealous or mad about what others have.  I am excited for them!  I just want what they have.

As I reflect on my struggle with coveting, I realize this is common for many men and women.  Everyone always looks so perfect from the outside.  You know those girls, we all want to be her.  She looks like she has it all together.  She is smart, funny and attractive.  She has three kids while juggling a non-profit agency she started up.  She is super woman.  But like I said earlier, on the outside most of us look like we have it all together.  We are judging her based on social media or what others tell us.  We have a pre conceived view of this woman that we barely know.  How unfair is that to this woman?  She might be struggling with the same thing we are, but at a different level.  There will always be woman that seems to have it more together than we do.  And there are also woman who look at us like that.  We have to look at the big picture.  We are all woman who deal with many of the same struggles; insecurity, coveting, busyness, etc.  Instead of judging, we need to come together and be open about these sort of things.

This verse comes to mind when we judge someone based on the outside.

Proverbs 14:13

Even in laughter the heart may be in pain….

Like I will repeatedly say again.  She might have it all together from the outside, but she still has struggles.