Proverbs 31 Woman

One of my goals recently is to become the epitome of the Proverbs 31 woman.  Wow!  What a woman!?  This woman has set a high standard for us today.  She is smart, confident, strong, kind and stylish!

This woman does not exist in todays standards.  For some reason, a woman cannot be all of these things.  She can be confident, but she is also a witch with a B.  She is attractive, but she is stupid.  She is kind, but also weak.  The stereotypes of this world aggravate me.  We can make our cake and eat it too, all we need is God in our lives to make us the woman He wants us to be.  Why do woman have to throw themselves in a box?  God has so much purpose for us.  He can make us the best wife, mom, lawyer, engineer, missionary or whatever His purpose is for you.

I want you to really understand that God has a different purpose for everyone of us.  These traits are to define our character, attitude and way of life-not dictate our career choice.  You can be a missionary in Africa, a Wal-Mart cashier or  a stay at home mom and these traits can still define you as a woman.

Proverbs 31:10-31

“A virtuous wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.”

She has high moral standards.  Her principles don’t change just because everyone else is doing it.  In today’s society, we are constantly being bombarded and tempted with people trying to tell us what a woman really is.  I love this verse because her morals weigh out any situation.  That is her final answer, no person or the ads on TV will compromise her standards.  Just like when this verse was written, a woman like this is hard to find.

“The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.”

She has wisdom and her husband can clearly see that.  She doesn’t talk bad about her husband, she cares about him.  I get so aggravated with some woman today about how they treat their husbands.  We have so much influence in our husbands lives, why can’t it be a positive influence?  Woman tear their husbands down and then don’t understand why their man doesn’t want to do anything for them.  Well duh!!  Lets call my husband a loser and then ask him if he wants to go out on a date.  How would you react in any other situation if someone did this to you?  Don’t misunderstand me, its okay to be aggravated with your husband sometimes and having a healthy conversation about what is bothering you.  But to constantly tear down the person closest to you, doesn’t do anyone any favors.

“She looks for wool and flax, And works with her hands in delight.  She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar.”

She is persistent and does everything with a positive attitude.  She doesn’t complain or expect other people to do things for her.  She takes it upon herself to get things done.  What a woman!!  I think today’s society does not think a Christian woman can be independent.  But whats the epitome of this verse.  She gets things done herself.  She doesn’t wait for someone to hand it to her.  To be perfectly honestly with you, being independent is such a limiting word anyway.  Two are always better than one!  (Maybe another blog post to articulate.)

“She rises also while it is still nightAnd gives food to her householdAnd portions to her maidens.”

She is an early riser.  I have read so many articles on how early rising is so beneficial to our quality of life.  It gives us a sense of accomplishment, we can actually get things done without interruption and more importantly its a time where we can have alone time in prayer with God to start our day off right.

“She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard.  She girds herself with strength And makes her arms strong.  She senses that her gain is good.  Her lamp does not go out at night.  She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle.

She is a smart business woman and makes good investments.  Donald Trump would want her on his financial staff.  She is always looking for ways to supply her family with income.

She extends her hand to the poor, And she stretches out her hands to the needy.”  

She ministers to others and is always willing to help people who are less fortunate than her.  Some of us don’t make a lot of money and that is okay, we still can help people around us by utilizing our service skills.  Money is not the only way to help.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet.”

She is a saver.  If disaster hits, she is ready to handle the situation.

“She makes coverings for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.”

Ladies, here it is.  The bible tells us we should look good.  Are you surprised?  Now this doesn’t mean you need to go out looking like a hooker and forgetting about the “virtuous” woman above.  You should fix yourselves up for your husband and yourself.  Who doesn’t feel  more confident after wearing something nice?  Our society has taken looking good to an extreme though.  If all you think about is looking good and trying to impress others from your looks, that is not very wise.  You are missing the point.
“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies belts to the tradesmen.”

Her husband is also a prominent member of society.  She is a supportive to him and the men around her.

 “Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future.  She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

This is probably my favorite section of this passage.  This woman has a very regarded character.  Her integrity blows us out of the water.  She has a quiet and calm strength that is extremely powerful.  People take notice.  You don’t have to be a loud or an obnoxious person to get people’s attention.  The way you handle yourself in daily situations are an example for the people around you.  People notice a lot more than we think.  We are constantly observing one another and experimenting what others have done.   She is a confident woman.  She is not constantly up in peoples business, but when advice is needed she knows what to say and how to say it.  This verse is a true empowerment of a woman.  It is a beautiful verse depicting a woman that is sure of herself and does not need outside opinions to tell her that.  This should be what all girls live by.  It doesn’t matter if you are skinny or curvy, your personality, your age, where you are from-this verse is universal.

“She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.”

This woman is always getting things done.  She doesn’t surf Facebook or watch soap operas for hours.  She is organized and has her household under control.
“Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all. Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.”

Wow, what a verse.  Her husband and children appreciate what she does.  How many women do not here enough of this? Another one of my favorite sections of this passage.  We can be beautiful and charming but in the end that doesn’t matter.  There is no stopping a woman who makes God first in her life.  As humans, we can only do so much.  But with God anything is possible.  We can be a Proverbs 31 woman with God in our life.  All we have to do is pray to Him with a heart full of desire to represent God in this amazing way.